I Shouldn't Have Said Anything

Remember three weeks ago, when I wrote a little post about how Gary is so generous with saying “I love you?”

At the time, I read it to him, and he interrupted to say, “So, you like it when I say that?” I suspected he didn't know how short the post was and wanted me to wind it up.

Since then? The daily “I love you” has dried UP. And WHY. Why?

Does he think:

“I sound really whipped. I gotta stop saying that.”

Or perhaps instead:

“Well, she sounds pretty whipped. I can stop saying that.”

I asked if he was holding the “I love yous” hostage as a power move. He claims I’ve been saying it to him, pre-emptively, expectantly, and it’s annoying. Like it’s a chore now, I suppose.

Well. I have quite a few "I love yous" banked, so I can coast without it for a while. 

Comments

[KC]

Gary is committed to never being predictable, I guess...

Either that or he is extremely sensitive and... something...

[theQueen]

KC - He is sensitive to always having the upper hand in the relationship, that's what I think.He took umbrage once when, in public, I refereed to him as ever faithful. I suppose other men might have scoffed at him.

[KC]

... I guess that having leverage can feel safer, but... uh... yeah. Faithful is *good* and should not be scoffed at (and also should not be taken advantage of). One of the things that delights me about my husband is that I can repair his computer and *there is no hidden porn folder* and this is just lovely and also unusual, but what, would some dudes consider that Unmanly?

[theQueen]

KC - My dad was SO pro-porn that I expect it from men (your husband being the exception). But hiding the folder well and wiping the browser history is a nice courtesy.

[KC]

I also broadly expect it from men in the US on average, which is why I significantly appreciate the difference with my husband! (it is possible that some men hunt down and exclusively watch porn that does not especially dehumanize and exploit women, but that's a ...pretty small... percentage of porn, so. I'm very happy with the no-porn thing and having a fairly feminist husband!)

I think second-best, if one is doing in-depth tech support on a computer, is to be warned of which folder to avoid the heck out of, though, rather than having it hidden, because a lot of times when doing backup or recovery, you end up effectively selecting all folders but then in the process, individual files surface so you see kind of a lot of things file-wise instead of folder-wise, which could be avoided if you de-select the Don't Wanna See It folder (which is part of the reason I am... fairly confident... over here; not absolutely certain, of course, but between the quantity of his time I have observed first-hand in the same room during the pandemic and his computer when I've fixed/updated/repaired/etc. things, I'm pretty solidly confident. But also I am aware of the general statistics!).

[theQueen]

KC - your faith in your husband gives me faith too.