There have been a number of times I have had embarrassing wig conversations. People tell me my hair looks good, and I say, "Thanks, it's a wig!" and there the conversation stops. For a while I couldn't understand why. They seemed embarrassed for some reason. Are wigs embarrassing to non-wig wearers? Did they feel conned or something? The expressions on their faces were just sheer horror.
Finally I have worked it out. I think they were suffering secondhand presumed embarrassment. They were embarrassed on my behalf because they thought I was embarrassed. Or perhaps they felt I should have been embarrassed.
There are a lot of expectations that I should be embarrassed. I'm expected to wear transitional wigs, for example, increasingly longer wigs to give the illusion my hair is growing, because otherwise people would have my unashamed wigginess thrown in their faces. God forbid I switch it up and change hair colors for a day.
It's just odd. I'm trapped in this silly deception so I don't generate secondhand embarrassment. Perhaps the next time it comes up I should just describe myself as a proud wig wearer? I don't know. I'll try it next time it comes up.