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July 17, 2008



Grrr...One of the biggest things that bugged me (for 20 years) about Xman was his refusal to get himself out of bed and to work on time. I can't begin to say how much this infuriated me and I completely lost it when he yelled at me about not waking him up. I told him time and time again that a grown man should be able to get himself out of bed and in to work on time. (This was before I diagnosed him as a narcissist. I didn't know what I was up against.)

I told him I wasn't going to do it anymore and one weekday, he slept until 1:30 PM. He started to give me hell about it and it was talk to the hand from then on.

Cough drops. Just one step on the slippery slope. Just sayin.


His mother woke up earlier than he needed to be up every day for 6 years just so she could call him? No freaking way.

My daughter and her cousin (both 4) spent the night with their grandparents Wednesday. I had told my daughter she needed to get up and get ready with no whining or delaying Thursday because her cousin has morning swim lessons (at 9:00). I guess she took her responsibility seriously, because she got out of bed at 5:45 and woke up grandma so they could be on time.


Gah. Don't even get me started on this subject.

Needless to say, I can relate.


After watching my Dad all these years, men are babies. They need women to survive. Period. That's why there are only "a few good men".

What about alarm clocks? Or is that old fashioned?

Friend #1

#0.75, I totally agree. Men are the biggest babies on the planet.


Even if they pretend to be men when you meet them, they always revert back to child when they co-habitate with women. It's an amazing thing.

Perhaps if you baby him enough, he will find himself disgusted enough at being married to his mother that he'll realize he has to grow up? And pigs will fly that week too.

Lisa Emrich

Ugh. Ya I get the 'just a few more minutes' for just a few too many mornings.


I can relate, too, but probably more to Gary's sister. Extrapolating from my own experience with my husband, perhaps when Gary was younger, or bachelored, he had a tardiness problem????? I have to start getting Tom ready long in advance, or we'd never be, nor he'd never be anywhere on time. (And by "on time" I now mean somewhere in the vicinity of an hour)

I'd love for Tom to be the grown up and be able to get himself up and out of the house in a timely fashion, but alas, it is just not to be. It's probably the biggest sticking point in our relationship.


Perhaps it would be less galling if you considered it less childlike behavior, and more of a *preference to delegate responsibility.*

As long as he's come into wealth recently, perhaps he could get a butler.


We have similar problems, except that my husband has a horrible wench for a mother and subsequently has the opposite problem- he expects nothing and also does nothing if not explicitly asked.

He also likes to nap and would do so every evening from about 7 to 10 if I let him, only then he goes to sleep at like 3 in the morning and spends the entire next day bitching incessantly about how tired he is. I've had to set napping restrictions just because it drives me nuts. I think I've decided that all wives, to a certain extent, are second mothers. It's just our role.

And hey, at least your husband is making you wealthy. Mine is dragging us about $250 more into debt each day. It's a good thing I love him a lot.


Christy - I think you are married to Xman. Good luck.


Becs - The strange thing is, since Ive started doing it, he's been helping me out more.
Caroline - You have some special gift for threatening your daughter. I still remember how good she was at the tea.
Heidi - I am sorry.
0.75 - The universal gay / dtaright point of view - why is it that the mythology has it so backwards? Women are taken care of. Obviously, women write the mythology.
Friend #1- Where you been! They aren;'t as cute as babies.
Candy -I think Gary needed help even when we didn't co-hab.
Lisa Emrich - But, then, is it your fault> Tahts the killer.
Christy - Good to accept it early on.
TasterSpoon - Ha. If only he could delegate at his job. We did have a talking clock until it became brutally annoying.
Katie - A DAY? Damn.
Becs - Talk amongst yourselves.


I think that a nice spanking would do Gary some good. But could you get it on video, then post a link to that video on your blog? (Just asking...)


Bruce - But then, everyone would hears how Gary screams like a woman.

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