Well, the nephew has sent out his wedding invitations, and they end with the phrase, "No boxed gifts please."
This was a new one for me, and I was as appalled as anyone. Why not, "Just bring cash!" The horror, the horror.
Gary promptly launched his gift protocol, which is, "I will buy you what I want to buy you and how you feel about it is immaterial to me."
He added, "They better have a gift table there, that's all I'm saying."
I pleasantly said, "Gift tables are tacky too. You are supposed to send gifts to the brides mother's house."
"I have never heard of that! We had a gift table at our wedding."
(A gentle cough.) "Well, I know Mom's relatives and friends all came in empty-handed." And probably the in-laws thought my relatives were stiffing us, I don't know. So easy to judge people with different customs.
That point was made this evening when I did a Google search on "No boxed gifts, please."
What popped up as I typed was, "No boxed gifts please PAKISTANI WEDDING".
Come to find out, I'm the tacky one, and not only because I suggested we bring a goat on a leash instead of a box.
The internet echoes with the distress of Pakistani brideswho have been forced to put this on their invitations for the benefit of dimwit Americans who keep trying to dump Cusinarts on them, instead of cash, which is the traditional and wholly non-tacky Pakistani /Indian gift. In fact, the cash is "often given in amounts ending in '1' for good luck."
So, we'll be doing that. Who knew?